July 13, 2007

Feeling the fear….

I came to my moms place in April for my delivery. Most of you know how difficult it is to kill time during weekdays, that too in the mornings. All the tv channels are loaded with those stupid serials. At this time my husband helped me out by giving some books to boost up my self confidence. One among them was FEEL THE FEAR AND DO IT ANYWAY by Susan Jeffers. This book deals with concrete techniques to turn passivity into assertiveness. Susan teaches how to stop negative thinking patterns and reeducate our mind to think more positively. As I turned the pages, I realized that fear occupies us most of the time in our life. Fear creates difficulty making decisions, looking for a new job, leaving an unsatisfactory relationship, spending money and the list continues.

Susan says to develop the habit of positive thinking to drive away the fear. But these days society looks being positive in attitude as unrealistic. If you start observing, you can find many situations, where a barrier is put for your positive attitude (though it’s very rare) by your friends, parents, co-workers etc,

Fear holds us from making important decisions in our life. We always have “what if” phenomena occupying us during decision making. At an early age we are trained to do what other people want us to do. So when we start thinking about what we want from life fear occupies us. The decision we would make today might not be the decision we would make five years from now.

This book (atleast) makes us think about our fears and the techniques to handle them. Quite interesting philosophical guide.